Ep. 236: "Into the Hat Weeds"
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hello hi John hi Marilyn
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how's it going oh so early
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yeah how about that Lindsey Buckingham
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you guys we should be president united
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states yeah I take it he says he's 64
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years old in that video you know so my
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you miss the deal
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oh it's so worth I was out last night
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with some other old people when i say
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last night I mean you know between five
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thirty and seven thirty talk about time
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travel and so I'm really really
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conscious of you know there's a small
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group of our small group of us old old
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old men talk about how young we look
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it's really nice i will DD stop
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complimenting each other or you just
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kind of casually note how interesting is
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that you continue to look so good and
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then everybody agrees
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oh no no we thought it all starts on a
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are congratulating your friends on how
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young looks what looks so maybe you look
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great so look great now you look great
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and then there's a there's quite a bit
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of like we're all good looking guys
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yeah you're looking yeah i'm gonna
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really good-looking guy we're all good
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look at got any group like that
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yeah it's a lie though of course and i
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agreed upon you know
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mhm yeah I agreed upon you gotta not a
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legal phrase it's a line from its
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titular line from an episode of the TV
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show Deadwood haha
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dad what I know the care you care deeply
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about dead wood that was special
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mhm they have a guitar playing on there
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yeah that's one of those shows you know
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this is the thing that has come up i
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think before in conversation between me
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and other humans who the shows that have
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modern music alright you talked about
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this with the key blinders yeah peaky
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blinders arm its III can't I can never
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quite I get it
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I get why it's very stylish they don't
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do that and Edward L it is very it's
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very period-appropriate except for the
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very elevated language well I thought
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the theme the actual theme song of dead
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wood was a little bit how you say head
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and the heart
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hmm which is a little bit like a modern
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recreation of water it the imagination
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am I sort of a modern what will I was
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going to take our madam tape
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yeah we're like if you didn't know much
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about music in that time you think might
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think that's what it sounds like
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yeah have you throw their joy thing it
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doesn't make it a thing that's a pretty
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good point you know you don't want me if
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you thought it would shoot a banjo and a
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thing who still doesn't make it back you
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got strong feelings about well it's
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banjo players the body is not the
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instrument itself right boom content
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contempo let's say I don't think it's a
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banjo player i should refine this
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yeah the banjo so first of all the banjo
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is a wonderful instrument of him
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I think it's if you take a banjo player
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and you put a certain kind of hat on him
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right like you like i love banjo playing
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it's just that it's a certain kind of
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hat goes on a banjo player when you're
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headed down a road
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wow ok you're on a path now where I'm
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going to start we're gonna start to peel
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off so is that a little bit like bit
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like that like the version have enough
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angry because I started doing stuff to
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you the banjo player version of having a
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oh you know like the the Lord of the
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Rings ring oh I feel like it's just
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having it kind of start to change your
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personality or you know so you're
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walking around some kind of a Horcrux is
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going to do something to like start
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affecting the way that you think an act
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you put my flat cap on a banjo player
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and pretty soon everything is out of
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control
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I feel like if you are learning an
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instrument you are learning the
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instrument that you have right you go to
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war with the instrument you have yep
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about the instrument you want so if you
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are somebody sitting around you're like
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I want to learn the piano but the only
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piano that you have as a tack piano
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you're gonna learn to play the tack
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piano huh gonna learn to play the
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concert grand
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Oh learn to attack piano and so you're
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learning to play the banjo let's say hey
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I'm i got here i am going to learn play
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the banjo I think there are people who
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grow up learning the banjo as their
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first instrument but i think would have
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a lot of the time they learn the guitar
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and then they they try to like retro
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like they may modify they modified down
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to banjo they think interesting so
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whatever you started on you start with
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an instrument that becomes your way of
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conceptualizing music works and kind of
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back into different instruments read
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this was the interesting thing about
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Paul McCartney right his he learned
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guitar but he learned banjo chords
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oh I would we would even listen to a lot
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of beetles and happily at my daughter's
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request and i still can't get over his
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baseline I just said I set there and
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like Lucy in the Sky with Diamonds is
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not by a long shot my favorite Beatles
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song this baseline on that is bananas
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it's like where did that baseline even
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come from or something like hello
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goodbye like how is he has he just keep
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getting better and better and it's all
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over six or seven years it's nuts but
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you know he was originally a guitar
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player now was he originally wasn't his
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dad his dad played like clarinet
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I wonder if he started on a woodwind
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instrument i think that i think the
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story was that they taught him the that
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his mother
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Oh new banjo chords and she taught in
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bandra chords on the guitar guy I you
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know I haven't read haven't read my you
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don't keep up with the robots my library
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of beetles me books lately we don't talk
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about the Beatles and years it's been
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quite awhile used to talk about them
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exclusively easy just pretty much
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Beatles Hitler and getting all the way
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mm but but so so I don't know there's a
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few set down a path and you're like I'm
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banjos my thing now and you put on a hat
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as part of that ok right you see what
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I'm saying I think I do yeah if you're
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just in the appear just devoted to the
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study of banjo and you're just in there
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banjo studying for your sitting in a
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tree or whatever wherever they teach
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banjo I think generally when you learn
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it yet that's taught in trees I think
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you're supposed to I mean I'm not sure
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about this but I think I think you
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supposed to be on a paddlewheel boat
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with no shoes and one leg swing over the
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side that's a great way to learn the
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I mean Kermit the Frog learned it in a
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tree must be hard to keep it tuned we're
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in a swamp
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well sure because this shit humidity
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it's not there it's not the heat it's
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the stupidity but if you if you pick up
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the band junior like this is my new
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instrument i'm going to be in the I'm
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gonna be in a band that requires a banjo
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player and I'm gonna and I'm going to
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pick up this instrument now and then
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immediately as part of that process you
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put on a certain kind of hat
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ok i'm talking not not like put on the
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banjo player had put on at an actual hat
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and you think that that's a component of
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being the banjo player in your band
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that's where we part ways
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Oh in true rest sting I mean who do you
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think like and it's I don't even think
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it's a question of like this is my magic
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banjo playing happen without it I cannot
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play the banjo but it's that you think
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as the banjo player in this band which
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I'm just beginning on this course of
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life i'm going to start out with this
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hat on and this is going to be my hat
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and we're already were divorced you and
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I I feel like we really want to talk
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about christie Lee some days I'm kind of
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obsessed with christie Lee right now but
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been watching a ton of videos
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she was it he's a tremendous musician I
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don't even know where to begin
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I've been watching a lot of videos the
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punch brothers and nickel creek
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yeah in addition to loving his hosting
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of prairie home companion it's the show
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is transformed
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oh good I'm glad to hear i'm going to
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show you won't listen to but he's been
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doing it for a while and like the guests
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that he has on their way he writes a new
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song every week every week is a really
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good song plays the shit out of a
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mandolin and he's also there's lots of
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good nature jokes about being someone
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who will just just just on Saturday
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night's program he said you know to say
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about mandolin players they spent after
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time tuning and half the time playing
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out-of-tune yeah no problem
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there's a lot of strings and if they're
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very close together mm he's not very
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much real estate every time I pick up a
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man like seriously really want to
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stretch this out a little bit you can
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make this little longer a little wider
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and there'll be more room but he plays
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that thing like like if Jimmy Page was
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good on guitar he just he rips he rips
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on that thing indeed even has the
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presence of mind like when he wants to
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do like quote a famous line when he
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wants to quit the famous line from
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losing my religion he he drops the
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tuning on once one of the strings just a
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little bit so it sounds a little bit
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more Peter Bucky you as we cover isn't
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that nice but I was watching so like I
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say I've been watching a lot of videos
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you know again I'm kind of obsessed with
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that AV Club thing where they come in
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and play covers and they the punch
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brothers did an amazing cover of just
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what i needed totally on ironic cover of
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just what I needed and I notice a lot of
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guys in the band have hats this first
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thing I notice the second thing I notice
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is that there is you don't see two guys
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were in the same hat have you noticed
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this in bands it would be unseemly to
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show up for a performance banjo player
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or otherwise and you turned out to be
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wearing the state's almost like we're in
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the same shirt as somebody else in the
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band like it would be unless that you're
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doing that for up for an effect but to
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highlight that these were twins or
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something like you wouldn't want to wear
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the same hat somebody else in the band
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is that part of the Hat process you have
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to get some get some independence of
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your of your hat so my my understanding
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of perhaps
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they're all wearing hats and you look at
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their hats and everybody's got their own
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individual take on it
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yeah for first glance it looks like a
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lot of men wearing the same happen when
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you look closely you see their different
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styles they're different materials are
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different bands and then they wear it
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differently they might be in a different
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angle and what's what's curious is that
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they're not there's not a huge color
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palette they're brown black tan and gray
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it's not like any of those people is
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wearing a blue hat or certainly not like
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a red hat you know this that they're all
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very muted but yeah the way the brim
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with the brim is the way that the crown
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is the way you kinda gret like you grasp
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off and and of the hats that I have and
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I have what probably 9 to 12 steps and
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style you know felt vintage felt hats
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that I've come upon in the in the in the
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years and there's one of them in
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particular that really nails it for me
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like that's my look
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that's my hat I as soon as I saw it I
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the other ones and imagine turning the
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other ones into this one we're never
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it's never right and I can never all the
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different you know they're all very
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distinctive because they once belonged
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to somebody and that person from blue
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jeans it would be like getting a pair of
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jeans that somebody warned for 20 years
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right right and
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but oh not just that but somebody it's
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like blue jeans that someone had from
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the day they bought them already
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designed a certain way because it
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because your hat
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it's not like hats came out of the
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factory all uniform and they took on
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these characters characteristics by
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being worn like when you went to the hat
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store you said here's how I want my
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here's how I want my hat steamed and the
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hat person would put the Hat on the
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steamer and then they would create and
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shape mold craft sculpt your how so that
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it was to your liking and you can you
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know you can steam a hat and read redo
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this on it and you can take it happen
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that you don't like and take it down to
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the Hat steamer and have it steamed and
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and made made again made a new so it's a
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it was a whole it was like having your
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suits tailored you would have your hat
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tailored and that's a thing when you
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when you look at it when you look at a
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cowboy band where everybody on stage
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including the stage manager including
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the you know the the guy running across
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the stage dressed all in black with a
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leatherman on his belt and it's kind of
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maglite all of them are wearing hats in
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these cowboy bands and it's not you know
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they might all be black hats but every
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hat i think if these people have any
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class is going to be like yeah you know
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a lot of a lot of mexican bands they all
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would actually wear uniforms they were
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all the same hat and all the same
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clothes from top to bottom I labanda
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yeah yeah I think you will find that
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there have a special section for that
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kind of music do you really yeah the the
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balance of the narco tiros I is in
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Norteno is that what that is
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I'm i dipped into that just a little bit
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but this is going to i'm going to be the
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white guy for a minute just going
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getting burritos out here that means
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gonna go this is a this is very
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interesting music the production of on
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it is extremely I don't capture topic
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here going to get back to the hats but
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it's a very interesting style of music
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and they do some pretty burning covers
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have you ever heard the Banda cover of
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still the one is Wayne but the have nots
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i'm afraid the barber I thought your you
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were you were referencing still the one
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the old NBC from that wasn't me that was
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work that was player player was that
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band player of the band here
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you're still the one you can scratch my
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itch still 12 were still having fun and
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you're starting to launch the one and
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that was a that was a popular song on
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the radio and then I think it was NBC
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ABC ABC or means it was or liens wasn't
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player player was baby come back
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Barry come back dude it thickens
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ah yeah that was still that was still
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hit song on the radio and then it was
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made the ABC television theme right are
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and that was very confusing to me as a
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kid because i was like which is it
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well like what's happening this is being
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played on AM radio found extremely
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confusing
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yeah I'm still confused me and so so the
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the Hat being I feel like a lot of young
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people are not having their hats
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tailored because they don't even notice
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a thing
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yeah and so I don't think you get up
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onstage with the same hat as your band
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mate but I feel like what that has
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produced this I'm getting I'm getting
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super down into this now into the weeds
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in the Hat weeds who what that produces
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hear you you're going onstage with your
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friends here you have decided that
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you're all gonna wear hats and you don't
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want to wear the same hat but you don't
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understand hats very well you don't
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understand that you could all go down
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and buy the same Indiana Jones happened
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just have them steam differently and so
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what you end up with is for people on
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stage who are wearing hats that don't
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belong together
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hot incompatible right so one person's
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wearing like a very very small brimmed
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Frank Sinatra era trilby hat and one
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person's wearing like a flat top
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like a silver buckled mike mccready had
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which is like the bad guy from a certain
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kind of spaghetti western hat a liner
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which means likely je KOB Khun hat right
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yeah and that you've got like somebody
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wearing a straw boater and then there's
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somebody who wearing like a Robin Hood
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have with the giant feather and it's
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like you guys don't this isn't you just
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you just look like you look like a weird
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catalog of shitty hats you don't just
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having perhaps doesn't make you a band
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so it so that that really irks me
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because that it doesn't feel it doesn't
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feel to me like the hat wearers are are
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making the hats their own they're just
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trying to distinguish themselves by
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having I'm an interesting and more an
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interesting style about you going out
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for a take on that you give me your
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diagnosis sure not many people what you
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know again famously one of these things
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were since what JFK people have been
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increasingly wearing fewer hats men have
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been wearing hats less as a thing to
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wear today a hat is a statement in a
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unit of itself and of itself but also by
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virtue of the fact that not many dudes
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wear hats we have also become less
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nuanced in our understanding of what the
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Hat signifies or the subtlety of that
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particular say looking at six hats and
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saying like oh these are actually really
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different but I couldn't have all that
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do you think I mean is something where
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like that so let you go on vacation get
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cornrows or maybe get a Hawaiian shirt
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and you don't really think too much
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about it just think you did his a hat i
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picked up
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it's not something where you're
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investing much in it or you're not even
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still participating in hat culture and
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over way and and this may be a situation
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where my desire to understand the the
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history of a of a culture right
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even little bit in just just a slight
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penetration of the history of
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hat-wearing what hat signify
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at maybe has clouded my ability to
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understand that in the 21st century the
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way hats are worn is like everything
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else in the 21st century it's a complete
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undifferentiated Hodge podgy where it's
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just a checks and polka dots and plaids
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all thrown together and to be even
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remotely interested in the fact that
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this used to mean this or this is this
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is different from that because of this
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change in in history or in tempo or in
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the moment that's no longer relevant and
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the question is what how do you like
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what have you think is cool right now
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and you know that that kind of thing
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maybe i'm being inhibited by my desire
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to have things mean things but like the
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top hat and that the top hat is not a
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single thing if you look at top hats
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from 1820 I guess when they first kind
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of came on the scene up until the the
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top hats of twenties 1920 right I think
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I think you'll find president's wearing
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wearing top hats at formal events i want
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to say at least into the twenties and
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probably thirties where Woodrow Wilson
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you will you will see him off in a top
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hat but i don't think you'll often see
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maybe oh yeah maybe FDR oh my gosh did
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wear them he did wear them but he's a
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very fancy guy Harry Truman never had a
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top hat on so let's just make the
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morning right let's make the line FDR
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was a fancy fancy man and war top at
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Harry lot of photos of him and looks
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like a silk top hat that mean are using
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more like a fedora looking really smooth
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and really smart
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I'm sure somebody's gonna pull out a
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picture of Harry Truman top able to pull
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out a lot of things John Wright but uh
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but all there's a top hat with a top hat
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look at that this has Jesse throwing
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written all over it
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they're beautiful because FDR I that's
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his top hat case
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look at that but the butt
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that the actual had itself in that
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hundred years really really really
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evolved and became like a it was a
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hundred different things so the the the
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top hat chester a arthur war and the top
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hat / where's our like not just the same
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they're not they don't even look
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anything like each other if you put them
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next to one another and if you
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understand she teaching at a university
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so so like choosing it looks so let's
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say so there was a there was a time
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there was a time in be in the early two
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thousands where the the long winters
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took a photo a band photo where we were
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all wearing hats i remember this is
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aaron guys were kind of getting big and
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it was one of your first like we've
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gotten big soda sessions now we have a
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photo your blue shirt with like an
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orange background in that I mean we were
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also wearing suits sometimes we never
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he lit the fuse and tanya and and then
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it do anything but make that make the
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hat is going to slink off and say I'm
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not a big I'm not enough of a hat for
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this person and the top hat was so good
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on Shawn that he wore it periodically
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multiple times with Sean wearing a top
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hat and the rest of us weren't wearing
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than just our Rock clothes she was
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wearing a top hat and I liked it you
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know it was it looks good like him a lot
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of the time when when when a rock person
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effects a weird thing and my feeling is
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you're like me
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not quite but this top hat on Sean I was
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like absolutely usually wear it everyday
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i think not i just sent you a photo i
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found off the internet of this when your
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sessions here
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photo shoots Eric swearing like an
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amelia earhart aviator helmet you about
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a what you call yours is not a Homburg
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use it is a number i would i would call
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it a Homburg Michael is wearing what
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appears to be a wig and the outsider
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been some kind of brown hat
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yeah the wig the wig belongs to me and
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the brown hat belongs to me Michael did
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not a did not have those things in his
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own good for Mike library good i was
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funny as at that point you know up until
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I don't want to i don't i don't want to
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feel too much
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no we usually redact this yeah but
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Michael had you know Michael had only
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recently shaved his head and him greatly
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had been liberated because shaving your
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head now you're now you are not any more
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concerned about what's going on with
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your hair
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remember that 12 hours after we met
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Chris camellia shape too set in my
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kitchen
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oh right that he was going through a
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real phase then we want to keep it tidy
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don't know did I retire we were driving
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through a bad a desert on the way home
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from a tour we played our last show
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we're in Nevada
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and the crib and everybody else is
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asleep i'm driving chris is in the
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passenger seat he said pull over here
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will you take milk you know this is like
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UFO country and I see your gotta go to
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the bathroom and he said no i just i'd
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like you to pull over i think im gonna
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walk home from here and I said said
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Chris the middle of the night in the
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middle of a desert not gonna let you out
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to walk home it would it would take you
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five months he was like I really I
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really feel like that's what I want to
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do I really feel like right now I want
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you to pull over and I want you to let
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me out i'm gonna walk home
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I was like you know winnemucca is a
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six-day walk from here and there's
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nothing between here and there except
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UFOs then I talked him out of it but he
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was sincere if I pulled over he would
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have gotten out with his bag like he was
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very he wasn't like let me out of the
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drunk he wasn't mad he was just like I'm
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gonna get out here and obviously he
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wouldn't have died he would have finally
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figured out and put his thumb out and
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hitchhiked to win market probably about
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a bus ticket but maybe he would have
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walked who knows but yeah at that time
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in your kitchen was like I'm shaving my
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head right now but I'm sorry I should've
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said he was sooo shading Michael said oh
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oh I see what you're saying he shaped
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Michaels head
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yeah I feel like I remember this pretty
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clearly and really thinking hard seems a
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little familiar for known each other 12
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hours my kitchen I see what you're
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saying for my children play but but what
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about Chris I chris is a delight I bet
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he was a handful he was he was a very
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very quick very very funny i don't know
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how you guys made it with you and Chris
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and Sean in that same van that is there
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so many competing super strong
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personalities i mean not the other guys
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don't have it but like those it's you
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and you and Sean were enough but with
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chris and the next thing as a wild-card
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man with an amazing thing about Chris
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was that heat
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in the nineties in seattle Chris was not
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regarded as funny you know it wasn't a
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thing that he would have said he would
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he'd never projected like I'm the funny
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one right and when it was a we have a
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culture here of people that were doing a
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lot of of playwriting and there were a
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lot of actors there was a lot of music
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about we had a pretty tight an
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interesting group of multi talented
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people that were doing all kinds of art
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and Chris was not really he was he was
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deeply in the mix but he but he he never
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said like I'm funny I'm doing funny
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things he was sort of you know he was
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like the handsome One
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let's let's put it let's put it how it
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is he was the handsome One and he worked
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as a bartender downtown and he was
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charming and he had a lot of girlfriends
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and his charm was was pretty quick you
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know somebody would come up to the bar
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and they'd say something snarky to the
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bartender and Chris could put them he
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could put him away but again he wasn't
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you know like I'll I month I'm funny and
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Chris was a friend of mine and I never
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thought like oh chris is really much
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competition in the funny department but
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we got on the road and I think this was
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as much a revelation for him as it was
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sudden uh it seemed out of nowhere
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revealed this incredible talent of
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storytelling comedic voices comedic like
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personalities such that he could take up
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and Chris would just be doing a sort of
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one man performance the entire time and
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though and Sean and I so so part of the
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the dynamic between me and Sean was that
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we you know we were both we were both
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funny but also we're trying to sort of
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you get
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deep were we were you know we were
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having critical discussions about
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critical thought blah blah blah blah
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blah and Chris just cut through that
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like a hot blade because chris just did
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an hour of a he basically we were
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driving through the desert he would be
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like well this is you know Bob Jenkins
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Arizona northern Arizona radical radio
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and he would just do like a radiant like
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a talk radio guy from the location we
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were in the appropriate voice and with
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be and as though you were listening to
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the radio and we would all Sean and I
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could do was periodically be like ring
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ring hi
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you know it's a like it's a collar and
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ends and Chris would take the call
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like wow let's go ahead caller and we
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would have something we'd give some kind
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of we try to throw some tennis ball in
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there and he would just very definitely
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take our call and handle and it was what
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we would like to tears streaming down
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their faces and I had known chris at
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that point for 10 years and I have never
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seen it before and no one I know had and
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I don't think Chris had we drove around
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for a year where you couldn't wait to
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get into the truck and well and in a
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situation where you would think like
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Sean and I were always jockeying for who
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was in a jockey for top dog but Chris
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just blew the whole thing out of the
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water Christmas was faster than Sean
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faster than me faster than this both but
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there wasn't any real resentment or
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competition in it because he was so much
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well that you could shine the chanting
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city absolutely Sean fella Sean fell in
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love with him and and it's hard and I
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think it's hard for Shawn to fall in
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love with with somebody that is like
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operating at that kind of level and sean
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just I mean just loved loved loved him
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to this day
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so it was a tragedy that Chris couldn't
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stay in the band because he really made
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those i just made those miles disappear
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and was a source of a lot of a lot of
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like real joy not just a distraction not
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just like law but he he was tapped into
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you've tapped into some bigger thing
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we're just did they must have been such
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a gift at certain times I just I can't
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imagine the drudgery of what that trip
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could be sometimes if things weren't you
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know it was an incredible gift and and
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and it caused me to realize like why he
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had been such a successful bachelor like
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looking back 10 years before I did hate
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Chris in 1993 because you'd be sitting
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in a baby sitting at a table talking to
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somebody that you wanted to check on the
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bird heebie-jeebie jam somebody up and
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Chris would walk through and he would
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never see it's not like you'd steal
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somebody from right underneath you
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but he'd come in and out and this is the
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other crazy thing he wouldn't sit down
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across the table from you and be like
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the brightest light and everyone flock
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to him it didn't work that way he would
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just be sitting over there and my kid
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his seduction was all done in whispers
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you never knew what he was saying
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through because somebody would you know
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we'd be sitting there and crystalline
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over to go buzz buzz buzz in their ear
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and they would go and then they leave
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and you're like what the hell does he
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say things like that and and so so later
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on I realized like all he you know what
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he was saying what in their ear with
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something probably pretty amazing but he
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never he never showed this until until
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this period of just a couple of years
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where where he was barking through the
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sky and and that and the problem was it
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was only happening in the van
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like when we got on stage huh
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there wasn't really an opportunity for
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him to step up to the microphone
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and do this routine and he wasn't really
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comfortable in on the microphone you
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know like it if he had an opportunity to
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join in that kind of thing that like
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onstage banter right in front of a crowd
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he didn't that wasn't where he wanted to
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be he didn't like it there and we were
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in the van every day like always got you
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know we have to make a TV show about you
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we have to like we're just strategizing
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how do we get you in front of people
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you're the world's greatest actor you do
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any voice and after he left the band he
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went to New York City he joined an
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improv theater group he joined likes UCB
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what's really but uh huh never made it
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above the like the level of people that
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were paying to take classes at UCB right
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and he talked a couple classes at UCB
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but it's not like he joined the
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successful improv group while he's still
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handsome look at him he's very handsome
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guy and he went to as a great great hair
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the greatest he had great hair when it
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was when he was young and it was
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completely jet black and then as it
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started to get song pepper it was great
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it never stopped being great my great
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uncle my great uncle Truman who was in
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the Merchant Marines had the exact same
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hair he was German was 85 years old and
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his hairline had not budged an inch from
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when he was 15 years old just look like
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a just look like a washer brush like a
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like a badger brush anyway I met Chris
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was one of my closest friends for a long
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time and I haven't talked to him in a
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couple years don't know what's going on
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with him like somehow it wasn't somehow
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that pressure cooker of being in that
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van and I think part of the pressure of
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being in that van was that Shawn Nelson
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was there and that i was there and then
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that was a that was a kind of audience
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and a kind of a cauldron
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but if i could if i if i could put on
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tape the that year and a half in the van
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you know it was it was a I got something
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I can't quite account for you know like
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you meet people and you feel like I know
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you are like I i know you Marilyn and if
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we went on a road trip together and you
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cracked me up the entire time i would I
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have an idea of what that would be like
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right you could crack me up the entire
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time and but I know what it would look
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huh but I didn't see this coming in this
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was somebody had known for years and he
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was my roommate for Christ's sake for
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three years but i didn't i have never
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seen this before this and it's not that
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he wasn't himself he was still himself
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he just all of a sudden just had the
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power of complete mimicry and the power
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of you of just like a character
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improvisation and character I feel like
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this is a phenomenon that you could most
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succinctly summarized as just because
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you can crack up your frat brothers is
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no guarantee that you would be a good
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stand-up comedian for many many many
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reasons and we started tackling that you
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realize how complicated all those things
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are there are some people who crack up
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their friends who could potentially
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become a comedy writer you could become
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like a comedy producer and this isn't
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just true for comedy stripper music is
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true for lots of things but it's it's so
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rare to be able to take it let's just
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stick with comedy for a minute but to
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take that skill of being funny to people
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around you and convert that into being
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funny professionally month stage or
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screen because it takes this totally
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different skill I mean there's this
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totally different like x factor that
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goes beyond knowing how to crack up John
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and sean and you know Erica Michael and
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I mean and it's but it's it feels like
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it's right there could feel like it's
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right there just like slightly out of
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reach but then you realize oh but
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there's there's the the grind of having
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to get into a group like that or like
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having to make this decision to like
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just a really good interview with Keegan
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Michael key about his name
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you know the guy from can deal w about
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how he basically they're asking like how
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we decided to go to MADtv rather than
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something else likes a sound like he's
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like well as money like they were paying
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better at that man TV and that is also
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where he ended up working even working
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with um his partner and doing like
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writings writing sketches together
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I don't know that this is a topic that I
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was found so interesting and you can
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expand it way beyond comedy comedy is
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where I feel like one of the places
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where you can feel it
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most strongly is that what what a leap
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is to go from cracking up your friends
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to doing this for a living and I think
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it's true for music i think is true it
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could be true for writing it's just is
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true for so many things and I wonder how
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often people who have succeeded with
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something could even like go to a high
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school and give a talk on how it is that
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they were able to make it big because I
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bet there's so many ineffable qualities
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and micro decisions that would be almost
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impossible for that person to identify
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well i think i think you're right the
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number of guitar players I've known
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between the time that I first started on
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guitar players let's say I was 15 right
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it's funny that i never i never knew a
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kid that was 10 years old and and
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already a virtuoso the first guitar
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players i was even aware of i guess
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freshman year in high school I knew that
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there were there were guitar players
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that you mean it was the thing that you
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could actually do it wasn't just on TV
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but by 15 I like new guitar players i
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owned a guitar but from that point until
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the present day I have known so many
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guitar players and so many of them were
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amazing amazing musicians and amazing
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even like songwriters who couldn't get
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you couldn't get to a situation couldn't
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get two of two a position where they
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were in a good band
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like let alone you got a good man that
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went anywhere
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look like they couldn't even put it
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together to get into a good band they
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either kept trying to make kept trying
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to flog bands with a fatal flaw or
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bounced from one band of the next and
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couldn't ever settle in somewhere or
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wanted the band to be really centered on
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them but they were missing a crucial
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skill like singing and you and you feel
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like then there are those few instances
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where you're sitting with somebody and
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they start to walk that idly hum along
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with the radio and you go
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whoa I didn't know you could sing uh huh
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you know sing along with the radio no no
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you have an incredible voice and it
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rock lottery we get started in Austin
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maybe it's still ongoing but what would
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happen is they would invite a dozen
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musicians across a wide spectrum of of
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instruments and ability and put them all
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together you know divide them up into
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like the groups of five and more than
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two dozen musicians like hear your five
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of you your five of you like there's two
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bass players a clarinetist a person
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playing hand drums and opera singer in
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this group and and then you're
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responsible for writing a song and then
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singing in at the end or performing at
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the end of the day it's a it's a
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interesting it's one of those things
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that's interesting to do and interesting
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to watch
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I'm not sure that if it was happening in
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the garage of the house across the
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street right now I would go over there
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to watch my guess I probably would it
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would be noisy i would have to deal with
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it but I i participated in one of those
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and one of the other groups so at the
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end concert were watching the show and
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it was like oh yeah that's really
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interesting you guys had a you guys had
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a sermon player has something bad
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something he's wearing a hat but there
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was one of the bands that had a a singer
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ma and he was a guy that just looked
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like kind of a punk
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punky guy also wearing a hat and a
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leather jacket and seemed like something
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to smoke a lot of cigarettes and he
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seemed fun but he started to sing and I
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just saw the future of music and Emma
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like you're the most rock'n'roll person
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i ever saw and it wasn't that she was
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that rocket looking it was just that his
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voice it came out and I was like I want
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to start a band with you I want to be
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the I want to be the guitar player in
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your band and I don't want to play
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anything complicated i want to play
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three chords every song is three chords
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because it's all it would need I just
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want to be that person
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loud guitar behind you while you do that
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whatever it is and I went up to him
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afterwards I was like wow you're
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incredible who do you play for and he
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named tsombe and that I hadn't heard of
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him that I haven't heard of now and I
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was like wow I really love to a year get
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together sometime or like just to meet
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for coffee or something and he he was
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kind but he was he very much had that
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like I'm i'm pretty happy with the with
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my band the lampshades sounds like okay
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well cool i mean still you know we
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should hang out he was like how we
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should totally do that maybe wasn't like
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he was condescending he was just like
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pretty much saw a lot of you just saw
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what he saw his future in the lampshades
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and I really wish I'd gotten his name
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because it's because in music it's it
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always changes right six months later he
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might have been like I wonder who that
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guy was i'd really like to get in touch
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with them
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but it doesn't happen very often where
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you see somebody that has that kind of
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gift that no one has you know that a
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gift and it's like they just stepped off
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the bus from Spokane in Hollywood and
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they're like which way do i turn
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yeah I want to make it in the big town
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and you want to be the creep in the
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powder blue link on Mel is parked across
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the street from the bus station was like
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they need a ride a ride in a hot meal
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but I I i know i think i know what
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you're talking about and is funny thing
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when you think about how you would in
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some ways how you this is very cynical
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but how you could reverse-engineer
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success out of a lot of careers you take
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a person who is humble easy to get along
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with shows up on time looks for
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opportunities to be helpful constantly
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improves their craft is open to change
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and accepting but I you think about like
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what like what makes people successful
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yeah whether you know whether it's a
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guitar player or an actuarial or
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whatever there's these certain qualities
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that you see and lots of people they may
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not be considered the name Abraham
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Lincoln of what they do but there's
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somebody that everybody could look at
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and go oh that person's a pleasure to be
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with and was great to work with them you
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know you somebody like you talked about
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christina aquilera how she's always the
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hardest working person in the room so
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you take all those kinds of qualities
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i'm probably missing some missing a few
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but anybody who has to do work with
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other people and in kind of changing
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situations the kind of qualities you
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would want everybody it would almost be
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better to engineer this this super race
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of terminators of people who had all of
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those qualities and then teach them
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guitar or give them voice lessons or do
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these other things because in all the
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things we're talking about
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sometimes it's just reluctant or not
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seeing that that's who you are who you
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could be but so often it's like well you
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know it's really if you really think
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about what we do instead it's kind of
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bananas
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wow I somehow accidentally got really
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good at guitar so you know why am I not
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in the rock and roll hall of fame was
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like what did you check all those other
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boxes because all these other things are
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so important this is
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yeah I think about this quite a bit
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right because we're just think about our
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our good friend Lindsey Buckingham
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yeah who by all accounts is a miserable
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awful person to not just work with
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mirror sounds very very unpleasant if
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you've seen that documentary of the
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Fleetwood Mac getting back together some
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getting back together documentary I
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forget what it was
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where they're working on some album in
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recent times and lindsey is just I mean
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you can't even stand to be you can you
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have to avert your eyes from the screen
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while he's on this because you just have
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there's so much bad blood in that band
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for so many very good reasons that it's
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such an act of graciousness just to even
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be in a room with each other that like
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you would all just so you all want to be
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on your best behavior and say you know
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bygones be bygones and let's just let's
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just agree not to be assholes with each
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other for a few days and I try to take
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this thing and there's a camera in the
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room so you're aware that too
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and yet all through all the years of
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like Fleetwood Mac gossip of course i
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always thought that Stevie next would be
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the difficult one right she's dancing
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around in the end of thousands carbs and
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and sing about Rhiannon like she's going
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to be the high maintenance person but
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watching these documentaries you go
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Stevie Nicks is amazing she's the sole
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of like patient professionalism and
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Lindsey Buckingham is driving me and
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everyone else crazy and they are going
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to great lengths to accommodate him and
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yet here he is this incredible guitar
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player and great not only pushing
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pushing his personality into the center
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of everything and this is the this is so
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so this is I am I think not
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not an invalid line of questioning which
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is that in our contemporary world we're
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taking it as as a as read that what we
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should be doing with our kids and in the
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inner culture at large is removing all
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obstacles for friendly good-natured
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people we should be teaching
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friendliness and goodnight
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students we should be removing from the
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we should be removing obstacles from the
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path of young people so that they don't
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have to confront adversity in the same
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way that we did right we we no longer
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put our cigarettes out on our children's
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arms who like but that's how John bender
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became John bender right John bender was
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the coolest guy in the breakfast club
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okay it's just because nobody else had
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that nobody's father never put a cigar
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out on them it's gonna make an omelet
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you gotta break some kids right here so
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but but the question is like Lindsey
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Buckingham is awful john lennon was
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awful and would those people in those
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people now have been kicked had been
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bumped out of whatever their career path
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was at a much earlier time by people
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saying you are awful your novel bully
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your ear and you're a mean person and so
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you're not going to be given this
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opportunity or we're going to be
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privileged nglish at your behavior over
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your talent and so were dissing cluding
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you and we're including you know Joe
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good-nature over here but what you're
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missing is the what ends up like
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neutering the art is the discomfort the
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the missing discomfort the missing
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frisian and what you end up is sort of
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you would end up with is this kind of
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like gray nutritive pace of music and
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culture that I think we're eat work even
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now starting to see like the very few
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very few people who are really burning
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bright in that way where where where
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they're so captivated be so captivating
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because they're on this bike path of
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self-destruction that you see like oh my
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god they're going to create or so hard
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and then they don't you know like button
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even a nile rodgers or whatever in 1978
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he was it not on the path that we think
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of he's on now right he was really
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burning burning bright alright
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just not he wasn't a bad guy but that
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your people a lot of a lot of material
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out there to continue living hard so I
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so I don't know i mean i-i you never
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want to and obviously you can't you
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can't reverse engineer you can't say
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like oh let's if you sit in this chair
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you pretty as your finger with a needle
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everyday for an hour that will give you
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the the association with pain it will
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give you the familiarity with pain that
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will allow you to write meaningful music
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or make meaningful art but but we we are
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right now is it in a in a moment in
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human culture where we are hostile to
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pain and and devoting a tremendous
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amount of energy to relieve pain and
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suffering from from as at from as many
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people as we can to to the as guys
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greater degree as we can and painting
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strong a word because I mean you know I
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think it's normal to say like I don't
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make it to have an infection and die
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it's nothing to say like I don't watch
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out ever be inconvenienced yeah
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but-but-but yeah there is that there is
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that weird world between infection and
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death and inconvenience but i think this
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is all happening you know just always
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gets into the things like we've in in
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quotes bad words this is yeah this
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larger issue of like nothing should ever
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come along that makes you feel that the
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in my daughter's class there is a child
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who at a certain point just this year
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went through a kind of looking glass and
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person and now is it is a hitter and the
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school district doesn't know what to do
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the school district isn't very
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well-equipped I mean this isn't the
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first time this has happened and they
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have a lot of they have a lot of
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solutions on a long continuum
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one of them is uh an employee of the
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school that comes into the class and is
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you know an assistant to deal with this
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kid and I know the kid and he's a he's
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oh you can see he's a lovely little boy
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and he actually there is something going
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on he does not want to hit he doesn't
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want to be a he doesn't want to be
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having this experience a lot of people
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to understand i don't appreciate that
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about you know these problem kids is
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like you can just see the misery of them
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like being run by some kind of clockwork
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and they don't like it either
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yeah something's inside him redone and
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his his parents never saw it before so
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they don't know how to deal with it and
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it only happened when he went to school
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for the first time he and so hit but now
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we're in a situation where my daughter
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comes home from school every day and
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says well you know I got hit again as
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you later
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he's hitting everybody how God and
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nobody wants to be around him but he's
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also a nice kid him and people want to
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play with him but what it what is
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happening ultimately is that everyone in
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the class is being affected by like they
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are getting they are having an inferior
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experience of school because a component
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of being in school is that you might get
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hit at any time by this kid and he's
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disrupting learning and so here but
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we're in this problem of like to at what
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point is he removed from school at what
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point is he sequestered at what point is
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he put into a into a box of like the
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unredeemable but by the same token do
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all the other kids have a have a right
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to be able to be in school and not feel
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like they're gonna get hit and you know
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he's not like a he's not a big kid he's
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a small kid he's just like they did this
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just happens right here and i think
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every parent in the school and and and
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and given the
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given the makeup of of this particular
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elementary school it's really
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astonishing to me the amount of just
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general sort of class-wide patience
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everybody has their is necessarily
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different
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different
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yeah there is no parent that I've about
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that iÃve yet experienced in this group
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he's like my child is having their
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education affected and I want this dealt
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with now everybody's just like well
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let's see what let's see what let's see
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let's try other things
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well we're three-quarters of the way
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through the school year and when I talk
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to my daughter about it I and I and I
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think back on my own childhood you know
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there were kids that hit me later kids
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that their kids that hit and you and
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ultimately like the amount that her
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education is being affected by it i feel
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like there's another side of that which
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is that she's getting an education in
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the fact that that there are people that
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hit and then nobody else knows what to
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do like the grown-ups don't have a
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solution and this is painful it's
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painful for him it's painful for
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everybody and it's one of the it's one
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of the things and and the adults that
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feel like they should i mean and i think
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in a lot of other cases and it might
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just be that we have a very lucky group
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of 22 parents where everybody is where
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everybody recognizes that the depth of
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the of the complication you could be in
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a lot of other schools and there would
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be some crusader who demanded that there
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was something done or or somewhere in
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the in the school administration office
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this got put into the file folder of
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bullying who which we've all agreed is a
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no-tolerance thing and then this kid
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becomes tagged as somebody that needs
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not just like special accommodation but
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needs to need some punitive
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three in traditional yeah and so forth
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and so on but but what we're what is the
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history there is a 56 year old kid
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yes six years old yeah um or-or-or that
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he needs to be medicated like profoundly
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medicated to a you know in order to
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survive in in order that he be a good
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six-year-old in this context where the
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stakes are
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listen to stories learn to use scissors
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you know learn your alphabet who in
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order to do that he needs to be on some
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kind of like cocktail of drugs and so my
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take on it is look weird
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we're just trying to we're just trying
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to be in this on this Ark hopefully
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every year there won't be another kid
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who is like who makes you scared but
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there's always going to be a kid that's
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a problem there maybe are a couple and
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one of the things that you learn when
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you have a kid that hits is don't stand
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too close to him or don't be next to him
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without being aware that he might hit
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you at any point like be his friend be
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nice to him but keep one aisle and these
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aren't necessarily bad lessons you know
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it's not what you would want its what
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you're everything you're describing
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their I feel like somebody who you know
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have my own room
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I was mostly safe school safe
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neighborhoods you know one of the things
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i found challenging for a lot of my
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adulthood is just on the superclass of
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issues i'm going to call dealing with
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neighbors so that would be people that
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could be your roommate in college it
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could be people in the adjacent room
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people above people below but people you
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do not have control over and people were
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you can just press a button and make
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them change even if they are quote
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unquote wrong in your eyes and a lot of
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times and to get your head right about
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this you think everybody's wrong it's
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not doing it the way you want you know
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they're they're using their car at the
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wrong time and effort
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you put out their trash wrong about
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these all these grievances that you can
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come up with because maybe and I'm just
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speaking for myself maybe because I got
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very accustomed to be able being able to
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control my environment and have recourse
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for when it didn't go my way
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a certain kind of privilege if you like
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and I think that's one thing we're what
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you're describing here is super
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complicated especially with little kids
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we're not talking about somebody who's
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in 10th Grade and setting fire bombs
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we're talking it sounds like this sounds
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very similar to what happens at my kids
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school which there are little kids that
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are mm they're different they're they're
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not they're not govern herbal in the way
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that everybody would like them to be so
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as you say so what is solution we put
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them in the brown reading group do we
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fill him full of drugs like what do we
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do but that to me that's that's that's
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one place where like it's been a hard
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road for me is dealing with the
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superclass of issues that i will call
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neighbors because I felt like who i
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would do you like Yosemite Sam like
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you've got to stop being that way and
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like no they don't have to stop being
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that way
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thankfully if you grow up amidst lots
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and lots of people living a 24-hour life
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in a way that doesn't comport with yours
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well then you naturally grow up
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understanding that well you know I could
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put in earplugs or i can move or I could
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do these other things but it's like
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pushing a rope to try and change
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everybody to conform to your idea of how
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that behavior should go and in the case
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of the poor people your school and the
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poor people in my school I mean there's
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really at least two problems one problem
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is that what the kids doing is
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disruptive and potentially dangerous
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gotta deal with that he said the
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government apart is the hard part get
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one kid in class like that I'm very
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sympathetic to this because these poor
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people are just at sixes and sevens with
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the resources they have to get one kid
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like that in a class it's a pain in the
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ass when I want you to kids like that
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yeah we get two and a half three kids
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like that in the class and pretty soon
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that teacher is spending sixty to eighty
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percent of their time just being a
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referee or a paramedic
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yeah right and that any other the other
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kids are just going to their fingernails
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and that's not why we sent him to school
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not getting noticed let alone rewarded
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for the fact that they're not punching
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somebody else or you know so i might
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might might take on what my
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responsibilities here is is that my
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like everybody's trying to figure out
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what to do with this little boy and the
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and everyone is taxed because of all the
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things that you're saying you can't just
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change him you can't take him out
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you can't you can't add adapt the entire
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school to him but what i can do is not
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be a problem in the sense that i can use
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it as a teaching experience for my kid
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and we can you know and and you never
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want to say like I'm sending my kid to
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this school and now i'm in a position
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where we're trying to make the best of
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it but in fact that's what you're always
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doing in every situation you send your
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kid to the public school and you try to
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make the best of it and even if
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everybody in the school is friendly you
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just your kids getting educated or mass
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nobody's getting a tailored experience
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and in this situation there is this
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other this other issue and if it wasn't
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a little boy if there was a if there was
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a radiator in the class that everyday at
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145 suddenly went on with no and and
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couldn't be turned off and the
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temperature of the room went up 202
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there are lots of kids in America that
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are in a classroom like that and if it
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was just that right across the street
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from your kids elementary school was a
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guy with the jackhammer that for an hour
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every day jack-hammered for
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month-and-a-half that's also something
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that's happening in schools across
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America and so in this situation i'm
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trying to help that little boy and his
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family and the school and my own kid by
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saying yeah you know what sometimes you
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gotta eat sometimes it's the neighbor
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problem and your neighbor put the
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garbage out wrong
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and after you leave five super
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passive-aggressive notes tape to the
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garbage you have to realize they're not
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going to change and so don't let
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yourself be in a situation where you get
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hit by this kid how about that it sucks
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but it's better than and you know I mean
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look at what would you advise be for
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something like what are you gonna do you
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stop writing public transit because
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occasionally there's somebody out there
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on their acting erratically and you're
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not talking about bombs going off every
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month you're talking about the
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occasional interactions with people who
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are who you can control their doing
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things you don't like and scare you
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and in that case I mean the only
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solution is to walk away
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I feel like we're now over a kind of
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hump where there is at least at this
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level I'm surprised I i went into public
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school thinking that we were stead the
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that the other parents and that the
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conditions within the school
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we're going to be kind of as I imagined
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they were 10 to 15 years ago where this
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would have been addressed with a lot of
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over action that there that this would
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have been an emergency situation it
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would have been a situation where the
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the parents of the child were really
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over examined like super launching the
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proletariat turns into something must be
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done about this now my Chum you my child
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is in this school too and is being you
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know harassed and bullied and subjected
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to physical violence by this other kid
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and I want redress you know all that
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stuff that I imagined was what was going
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on in the school's 10 years ago because
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i remember then you know I lived through
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those years and I thought that's what
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what what is how it would be now and I
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feel like there is because of the ebb
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and flow of time there has been
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reintroduced into these institutions and
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I think it's largely because the parents
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are different are coming from a
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different place some reality and some
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sense of like you know what yeah this is
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just how it is and and when we all
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recognize that there are limited
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resources and we all recognize that this
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is a real this is just one of the normal
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challenges of life and so nobody's gonna
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go to prison and nobody's going to be
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put on ritalin we're just going to
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figure out a workaround here and you
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know what's funny is when I come into
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the school now
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the teacher will often say hey will you
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go over and just give him a really big
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strong hug right now I'm the first time
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I was like what
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because I liked him but I wasn't sure if
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that was even allowed she was like yeah
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I think that he I can feel him like
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building up and I think what he needs is
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a big strong hug from a big man this is
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it this is a thing and I was like wow
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okay and so I went over and I was like
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hey buddy how's it going
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come on in and he was like huh and I
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wrapped him up and give him like this
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bear you're a good guy you know and you
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could just feel him like you know like
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you just wanted he just wanted somebody
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that was way bigger than he was to
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envelop him for a sec you see the temple
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grandin movie with the claire danes now
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I remember
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I you know last night I was watching
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Claire Danes movie called homeland
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melancholia melancholia uh-huh and Emily
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hearings in the movie she invents a
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machine for like basically squeezing
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herself and they're trying to throw out
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of school because if they get some kind
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of a sex thing I think there's a lot of
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the lot of thought on this now also I
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thought about getting a weighted blanket
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because we have as its under best I
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thought I thought about I mean because I
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i think that will call me down a lot but
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when I'm anxious when I sleep I think
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having a way to blank would help but I
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think I think there's a lot to that a to
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the sort of self
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well the swaddling is basically what
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absolutely yeah
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swaddle your ass and I think there are a
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lot of people probably listening to this
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program for right now thinking is there
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a way that i could find something in my
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own house to swallow myself with right
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now sucks modeling just yeah you gotta
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get a little bit
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everything is a weighted blanket yeah
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i'm i'm betting you don't have one now
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look into it it's hard to get from
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amazon prime because they're pretty
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yeah right i mean that's thing shipping
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its shipping that's consistently get you
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yeah that's how the kitchen but uh but i
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do feel like i do feel like part of
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being sane and raising a child in the
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same way
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is to not expect that there's a solution
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to every problem to not expect that you
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are going to get perfect redress for
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every complaint and that's and I feel
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like that maybe was the philosophy for a
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while there and that is that it was that
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it you know that where we are now is a
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product of having been through that and
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seen oh we're not going to go back to a
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time when the bully was on the
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playground and was like physically
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torturing your child but we're also not
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going to take every kid that brings like
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that every kid that sits out on the
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playground and sharpened stick
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we're not gonna immediately put him into
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protective custody here like I'm trying
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to be circumspect about this cuz I i
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think when you get into these issues it
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is helpful to think about privilege i
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really i really do because one thing
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you're saying there is like I think he
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was making a really good point here
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about like you know how you get redress
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there's that term they use I think it's
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a legal term they say to be made whole
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which is the idea that somebody has done
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something or cause something to happen
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to you that has taken money from you
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it's taking usually money but sticking
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something from you and now there has to
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be some way to make sure that that is
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made right that you are essentially made
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whole meaning so i can one example well
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if you're working in a mine and you lose
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an arm just hypothetically because the
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company was careless about something
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well you can't give me my arm back but
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you should give me something to
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compensate for the fact that you took my
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arm that's gonna have a huge impact on
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my life now what we're going to do to
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make me whole so to speak
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right but then idea i think that is an
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idea that you talk about it like sort of
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a baseline of like we need to get back
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to my normal i think that is such a
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privileged position and people are not
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aware of it is like what he listened
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what is the rest of the world going to
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do to get me back to where I'm
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comfortable about how all this works
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right to me this is just a thousand
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angles here into this whole like you
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know whether it's making America great
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again which is essentially this idea of
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let's go back to a time when everybody
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but white people had a reason to be
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scared when we could we could demand
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that we be made whole and everybody had
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to capitulate to that because reasons
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I don't know I just and I do agree with
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what you're saying also we're like my
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kids in school for certain number of
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years uh it's feels so different than
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when i was a kid i got my just because
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I'm an old man now but like I don't know
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there's just so many things that seem so
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different and there does seem to be less
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hysteria about almost everything that I
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expected what it is for parents or
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whether that's from the teachers the
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faculty the faculty and the staff like
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there's just less hysteria about stuff
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than there used to be I'm super
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gratified by its it's so much better
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than I expected because i wanted to
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dealing with adults you're not dealing
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with a slightly advantage children who
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are wondering how they're getting ripped
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yeah yeah I i really i really did expect
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that i was going to sit in a group of
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parents and say like well you know kids
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will be kids and they would all go
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no kids will not be kids anymore and in
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fact everyone's just like yeah I tried
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to make cake pops to make them all to
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appease them but they're monsters
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I was like yeah high fives all around
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right cakepops don't solve anything do
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I i feel i feel like when i hear that
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made whole thing and that whole
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mentality i just i reflected his pickup
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that just pick up that just a little bit
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and it's completely it's crazy is what
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it is is like I think about so all those
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you and you're like you're getting your
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olive oils father in the world owes you
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an apology
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it seems like it seems from what i hear
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is to people in divorce court and you're
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going to be needing it
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yeah and if you think about be number of
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of uh of divorces where that feeling
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that i'm going to be made whole and I'm
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gonna take it out of of my partner were
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splitting up and i'm going to be made
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whole and and the acrimony that comes
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into a divorce when in fact everybody
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got about what their do right like you
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can be made whole here
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you're breaking up and it's not a
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question even of money like you're just
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or you're sad and you want you and you
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feel like your arm got locked off and
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you've lost all sympathy for your
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partner and so you're going to be made
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whole and and the divorce takes the
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takes a path where what could have been
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I mean it's like the it's like the the
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partition of Palestine or whatever there
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was a moment when arafat could have
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signed the piece of paper and nobody
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would have been happy but there was
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there was a solution their bill clinton
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was standing there with his fucking hat
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full of milk and it was like we all
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here it is here's the plan we all agreed
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on this we've been working on this for
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decades
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this is it here it is this is the moment
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and Arafat was like but if I do that I
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won't be popular with the you-know-what
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the with my little gang and so nope i'm
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not going to do it and then it was like
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that was the one chance in history and
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and you blew it because you wanted to be
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made whole in a way that you couldn't be
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made whole
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there was never a way to actually work
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for peace as peaceful solution here and
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also for everyone to get what they want
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and particularly for you to be made
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whole naked network nobody getting yeah
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and and I think about all the divorces
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that happen where it's like you're right
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there you both acknowledged like this is
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it were done like you get the car i get
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the boat who hears our visitation here's
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like the you know here's how it all
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splits up but you want me to say that I
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was wrong or you want or I'm not going
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to leave here until you shake my hand or
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continuous festivus and it's time for
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the airing of grievances here's all the
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things that I have been storing up and
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tolerating for years and i wanted i want
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to give you this excel spreadsheet of
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emotional brokenness then I want to go
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through each item and explain it and
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apologize and pay me for it right and
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entering into the court record and at
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that point what could have been a like
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largely amicable solution to what is a
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fairly normal
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problem of two people splitting up goes
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into a thing where it will it can never
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be repaired and it was over nothing
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it was over something symbolic or some
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desire to be made to to have a thing
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that cannot be redressed be made right
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and in in a and I try to I try to see in
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every conflict now and particularly you
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know since I'm since i'm now receiving
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treatment for mental illness and say
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like is there a way to be made right
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no because time has passed i can never
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be made young again
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look we're putting a band-aid on a wound
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that healed or scarred years ago
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yeah like no I no amount of neosporin is
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going to fix that wound i was at a i was
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at a music commission meeting the other
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day and one of the one of the magazine's
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here in town that the weeklies wrote an
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article about the music Commission and
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that article made the music Commission
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visible for the first time to people in
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the larger community were like oh
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there's music Commission and so we had a
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commission meeting in our in City Hall
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where we sit around and the chairman has
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a gavel and people give us power point
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demonstrations and we sit at a big table
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with nameplates out in front of it and
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all of a sudden there were all these
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people in the room and it was like and
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every time we have a meeting it's like
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all right well we'd like to open it up
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for public comment and periodically
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somebody gets up and says hey I you know
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I just I work for real networks and I
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just thought I'd come and see the
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meeting thanks for having me
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they sit down and you have great alright
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anyway like who approves the meetings
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are you know let's improve the the notes
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from the last meeting or whatever i
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don't hardly page but this time the
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Chairman was like uh let's open it up to
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public comments and several people got
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up who were members of a protected class
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here in Seattle which are the people who
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get up at public meetings and ramp about
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their problem with the quick with the
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city you know they're probably the city
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and so there were
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several people who gave little speeches
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but two of them gave and they worked in
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concert with one another they were like
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a little a team one got up and gave a
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15-minute long speech where she
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excoriated the music commission for
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things that we can do nothing about and
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then her friend followed up and both
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very emotional long presentations about
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how it was all our fault about something
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and they haven't even been aware there
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was music commission until that this
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article came out the week before so
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we're sitting there just like when it's
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very emotional like whoa this is really
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heavy and it's emotional in a way that
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the Chairman feels like I don't want to
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interrupt because this seems very
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cathartic for you or like maybe this is
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stuff we all need to hear this type of
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thing and at one point one of the women
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said in the in the height of her fury
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about palvin justices she said you know
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and now i'm standing here and you know
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and now i'm standing here leaning on a
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I used to be young and it was like whoa
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I don't think the music Commission has
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the power to see really buried the lead
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with that one ya like I don't think we
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can address that God that you used to be
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young but you know this is the public
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comment period now I don't resent the
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word look pretty it up as they're all
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these e-mails back and forth from music
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commissioners like all apologizing to
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each other because no one knew what to
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do and it was like hey you know you you
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know what nobody knew what to do in
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there don't its you don't have to
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apologize it's a it's it's a good that's
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a while I'm did you guys decide to take
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any action as a result I i moved that we
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make her young again but I didn't get a
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second there was just a long comfortable
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silence
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it's so painful
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